Everyone Feels a Little Pain and Shame Sometimes

If anyone says they have only been on the “winning” side of relationships, they’re telling lies …probably narcissistic. Every normal person has won and lost in love …and that’s fair because that’s living and learning.  

If I did not see the worst of me through the failure, I couldn’t give the best of me to the one who will win my heart. Embrace all of what you experience, that’s where you learn to live life at its best. 

Don’t be afraid if you leaned in to love and you fell. Thank God for growth. I’ve hurt and been hurt, that’s life, good people. But when you heal, you live. I cannot apologize to those I left hanging, for I did not know love until I knew Jesus. And, even then, boy did/does He need to work on ME 🙌🏾. I can’t make up excuses for those I couldn’t love back or settle for; you have to live in truth. Present compromise is future frustration. 

For the uncompromising – money, means, mansions, ministry, and muscle are appreciated but not the primary criteria of the man that’s meant for you. It is to be applauded, but his TRUE quality is his character. You cannot put a crown on a clown and call him a king. You shouldn’t be a dress on a mess just to make her a Mrs. 

Women, be the example. Be available for the man to come after you. If he doesn’t want to pursue you, he’s just not that into you …shut that door, don’t play games with grown men. Men, if she opens the door and you know she’s the one, go get your blessing and appreciate that she wanted to be found and not expose herself like a clown. 
Easy and agreeable are a dime a dozen. You want a grown woman who understands value. That way, she adds to your heritage, not just your social media status. Cute doesn’t cut it. Pretty won’t be powerful when you need prayer. A woman is sexiest when she knows who she is and she submits that to you!

So, relax, God has the master plan. Don’t accept the side show. Wait for him. Wait for her. And when she is found, don’t you miss out being a clown. And, ladies when he finds you, you don’t have to compromise what you do. The pain and shame of the low moments built you for just the right moment. Be who God designed you to be. 


Don’t Ask God Why 🤔

Really?? The idea that “I know I shouldn’t ask God questions” is a bad idea. We are not questioning God’s “God-ness” because we ask our Father questions. EVEN JESUS asked, “…Why…”, Matthew 27:46. The question “Why?” or any other question is not too hard for God. As the psalmist declares “Even before a word is on my tongue, behold, O LORD, you know it altogether” (Psalm 139:4). God tells Jeremiah “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, and before you were born I consecrated you; I appointed you a prophet to the nations” (Jer 1:5), so God surely knows what we’ll say before we even say it. 

He designed us and can handle the hardest hitting questions and deepest thoughts we have. ➡️Real questions to God, by real humans living real lives, are in the Bible: Habakkuk 1:2; Habakkuk 1:3; Jeremiah 1:5-8; Psalm 10:1-4; Job 10:1; Ecclesiastes; Jonah 4:1; Revelations 6:10. 

A disciple is a hearer, learner and doer. How can we truly learn and have no questions? It’s like going to school but you never ask the teacher anything. The Disciples were full of ‘asking’ and Jesus was full of answering. 

Our scrutiny is puny in comparison to His wisdom. So, let Him drop some knowledge on you. A question is not unbelief, it’s an inquiring mind that wants to know. 


Too Much

What’s the fighting all about? I’ve seen it too much and I’m sharing this in love, for growth. (And you all know I respect MEN and love my brothers who are about that Man’s Life). This is for those ‘other-lings’. 

If a man wants to make you the kind of woman who fights over him, that should make you want to fight your way away from him, in a hurry. Messy men come in all ages and are internally little boys. That’s not queen status, that’s crazy. And if you have to earn love like that, you’re in trouble. 

If you have to prove you’ll do whatever it takes ‘for your man’, contact another woman, or ‘get stupid’ to show you’re down for him; believe me, you are at the bottom of your potential. Low to no self-esteem is not healthy. Discover your own self worth even if your story is a little scandalous (Ruth, Naomi, Mary, Queen of Sheba, Well Woman, Rachel, Esther, Rahab, Abigail, Zipporah…). 

Apart from what any other person thinks about you, YOU know your own worth – diamonds value increases from the pressure. You can live your greatest life on the other side of that kind of thinking. Lift yourself to who you are, a woman of virtue, dreams, and passion to live abundantly. 

The only “B” you should answer to is “Boss” lady. (Why call yourself that other word? Are you a female dog on all fours? Really, I need someone to explain, please.) Those were fighting words in my day. Wow! 

Just who you are is enough. You are too much for some people. Be okay with it AND be it! 



Reality is Real

SOCIAL. A few week ago, I viewed a video of THREE 15-year-old boys mercilessly beating a 13-year-old boy ON A SCHOOL BUS because he reported them for trying to sell drugs to him, the 13yr old.  It was brutal and heartbreaking. I’m not sharing the video because it is too disturbing for me – the cold-heartedness. May this child and his family receive justice and healing. God help.
It’s hard to briefly state my thoughts. Reality is NOT in these tv shows which are helping to move our children deeper into a culture of disrespect it’s in EVERY neighborhood. Parents, community, church goers church and community leaders, and civic, city, and governmental leaders – WE BETTER BE ABOUT DOING OUR PART…FOR REAL. When given the opportunity to impact a life or lives, LET’S DO OUR VERY BEST. Don’t waste people’s time with an agenda other than fulfilling the purpose the hand.
Psalm 1

A.C.T.S. Fellowship isn’t Just a Show, it’s for Real!

SPIRITUAL. I am a part of a wonderful fellowship of pastors, ministry leaders, and churches; and as we grow, I am more grateful that my resource base for great preachers and teachers continues to expands. However, most important is that it is a genuine fellowship, a fellowship of great men and women who love God; it is a great family.

Feel free to share about a Christian fellowship that is important to you.


Rise and Shine 

SPIRITUAL. Isa. 60:1 (below)

We have to “get up” in our spirits to righteousness. We have to “wake up” in our minds to truth. 

The external cannot be our only pursuits because even if you put a CROWN 👑 on a CLOWN 🤡, it still does not make him or her a king or a queen. Royalty resides on the inside and it’s not the same as haughty pride. The world promotes the latter through lust of the flesh, lust of the eyes and the pride of life. But, on the kingdom of God, to go up we must first go down. God wants to ensure our well is not springing up bitter and sweet, or rather, contradictory living. James 3:11, 1 John 2:16, Obadiah 1:3a, 2 Chronicles 32:26

The internal you is the true you. So, shine from within (eternal) not ONLY without (temporal). 1 Cor. 15:31, John 3:16, Psalm 51


“ARISE from the depression and prostration in which circumstances have kept you–rise to a new life]! Shine (be radiant with the glory of the Lord), for your light has come, and the glory of the Lord has risen upon you! [Zech. 8:23.]” Isaiah‬ ‭60:1‬ ‭AMPC‬‬

“Get out of bed, Jerusalem! Wake up. Put your face in the sunlight. GOD ’s bright glory has risen for you. The whole earth is wrapped in darkness, all people sunk in deep darkness, But GOD rises on you, his sunrise glory breaks over you. Nations will come to your light, kings to your sunburst brightness. Look up! Look around! Watch as they gather, watch as they approach you: Your sons coming from great distances, your daughters carried by their nannies. When you see them coming you’ll smile—big smiles! Your heart will swell and, yes, burst! All those people returning by sea for the reunion, a rich harvest of exiles gathered in from the nations! And then streams of camel caravans as far as the eye can see, young camels of nomads in Midian and Ephah, Pouring in from the south from Sheba, loaded with gold and frankincense, preaching the praises of GOD. And yes, a great roundup of flocks from the nomads in Kedar and Nebaioth, Welcome gifts for worship at my altar as I bathe my glorious Temple in splendor.” Isaiah‬ ‭60:1-7‬ ‭MSG‬‬

“Arise, shine; for thy light is come, and the glory of the Lord is risen upon thee.”‭‭ Isaiah‬ ‭60:1‬ KJV

He Rescued You, Now Rest in Him

SPIRITUAL. Psalm 81:6-10 “I took the world off your shoulders, freed you from a life of hard labor. You called to me in your pain; I got you out of a bad place. I answered you from where the thunder hides, I proved you at Meribah Fountain.  “Listen, dear ones—get this straight; O Israel, don’t take this lightly. Don’t take up with strange gods, don’t worship the latest in gods. I’m  God , your God, the very God who rescued you from doom in Egypt, Then fed you all you could eat, filled your hungry stomachs. (MSG)

It’s Only a Test

SPIRITUAL. Next Jesus was taken into the wild by the Spirit for the Test. The Devil was ready to give it. Jesus prepared for the Test by fasting forty days and forty nights. That left him, of course, in a state of extreme hunger, which the Devil took advantage of in the first test: “Since you are God’s Son, speak the word that will turn these stones into loaves of bread.” Jesus answered by …quoting Deuteronomy: “It takes more than bread to stay alive. It takes a steady stream of words from God’s mouth.” For the second test the Devil took him to the Holy City. He sat him on top of the Temple and said, “Since you are God’s Son, jump.” The Devil goaded him by quoting Psalm 91: “He has placed you in the care of angels. They will catch you so that you won’t so much as stub your toe on a stone.” Jesus countered with another citation from Deuteronomy: “Don’t you dare test the Lord your God.” For the third test, the Devil took him to the peak of a huge mountain. He gestured expansively, pointing out all the earth’s kingdoms, how glorious they all were. Then he said, “They’re yours—lock, stock, and barrel. Just go down on your knees and worship me, and they’re yours.” Jesus’ refusal was curt: “Beat it, Satan!” He backed his rebuke with a third quotation from Deuteronomy: “Worship the Lord your God, and only him. Serve him with absolute single-heartedness.” The Test was over. The Devil left. And in his place, angels! Angels came and took care of Jesus’ needs. (Matthew 4:1-11 MSG)

Voter ID Information

CIVIC. Came across this info. Keep reading for Updates on MS. –

Thirty-one states require all voters to show ID before voting at the polls ) In 15 of these, the ID must include a photo of the voter; in the remaining 16, non-photo forms of ID are acceptable ( Voter ID laws can be broken down into the three following categories)

Strict Photo ID (8 states): Voters must show a photo ID in order to vote. Voters who are unable to show photo ID at the polls are permitted to vote a provisional ballot, which is counted only if the voter returns to election officials within several days after the election to show a photo ID. At the beginning of 2011, there were just two states–Georgia and Indiana–with strict photo ID laws. Two states–Kansas and Wisconsin–passed new strict photo ID laws in 2011, and three states with non-photo ID laws–South Carolina, Tennessee and Texas–amended them to make them strict photo ID laws. None of these new laws is in effect yet, although they likely will be before the 2012 elections. Also in 2011, Mississippi voters approved via the citizen initiative process a strict photo ID requirement. The legislature will have to pass implementing legislation before the requirement can take effect. See the notes below Table 1 for more information regarding effective dates for new legislation.
Photo ID (7 states): Voters are asked to show a photo ID in order to vote. Voters who are unable to show photo ID are still allowed to vote if they can meet certain other critieria. In some states, a voter with ID can vouch for a voter without. Other states ask a voter without ID to provide personal information such as a birth date, or sign an affidavit swearing to his or her identity. Voters without ID are not required to return to election officials after the election and show a photo ID in order to have their ballots counted in the manner that voters without ID in the strict photo ID states are. The seven states with photo ID laws are Alabama, Florida, Hawaii, Idaho, Louisiana, Michigan and South Dakota.
Non-Photo ID (16 states): All voters must show ID at the polls. The list of acceptable IDs is varied and includes options that do not have a photo, such as a utility bill or bank statement with the voter’s name and address. Rhode Island passed a new voter ID law in 2011. It takes effect in stages — beginning in 2012, voters will be required to show an ID (although not necessarily a photo ID) at the polls, and in 2014 a photo ID requirement will take effect. /end

Praise over Problems

An unknown author said, “We live with sadness, we needn’t live sadly”.

The truth is that we all have plenty to sulk over, plenty to sink down into, and plenty to complain about. However, if we choose to live IN that, we really don’t live at all.

Problems come but Praise is comely…keep praying and praising. Blessings

The Lord’s joy will give you strength to live fully, abundantly. Blessings, Neh. 8:10