His / Her actions are the truth. Believe them.
#LADIES If all spring and all summer he has been hot in pursuit on your trail 🔥 and now as the holiday season approaches, he’s “chilling”, “falling back”, “taking time to get himself together”, then let him walk on by with a permanent goodbye. If he doesn’t want to do the holidays with you, then don’t let him ‘holla back’ at you when the season ends.
Now, IT COULD BE that he is ‘going through’, struggling – from recent life changes or unfortunate events – and may feel he can’t get you what you deserve gift wise, so he’s trying to gracefully bow out. That’s his mistake to make …and it may be fatal. Communication and honesty are key factors to building real, meaning relationships. God’s women are full of vision and are more than materialistic divas. She can see the man for who he is and where he’s going in life. The right wife is a man’s bridge to the blessed, prosperous life. And, she’s for the man, her man of God!
You know the difference between the cheap man and the challenged-by-circumstance man. One is #permanent and one is #seasonal.
If you have been consistent, you deserve the same. And do not let him call you AFTER the day ends. Men respect standards and expect them from women who they plan to be with long term.
#MEN If she’s ignored you, been living her free and independent life all year, but now as ‘gift season’ 🎁 sets in, she’s like, “I’m ready to see you, boo”💋😉, beware. She even invites you over for holiday dinners …and there you go. Do not be disappointed after New Year’s new do-over, when she has to ‘find herself’ or ‘clear her head’ and says she needs some time to figure things out.
If you cannot see past her beauty or booty, ask a trusted friend girl about the situation. Women know women and sadly too many good men get #harmed by the #charm, duped, heartbroken, and then the good women get the grief.
Let a spirit-filled, trusted sister help you. If a woman is not giving you undivided attention, she’s not playing games, she’s just not that into you. There is a difference in giving a man ‘the chase’ and just outright playing him for convenience.
Let it go. Let it be her loss. You are not the loser. God will give you who you deserve. And she’ll be what you want AND what you need.
The only thing that should be #CoolingOff around you, with the one who’s been in hot pursuit, is the weather. So, take inventory. If you’re left out in the cold, leave it alone!
Love the ones you’re with. Be loved right. Enjoy the place that God has you in and live your life happily. 1 Cor. 13:5-7, James 1:5